"Second Chances"

Second chances are not for the faint of heart, they're for the strong willed, the ones who know what they deserve, the ones who know what they want and won't settle for less, the ones who can stand their own ground and be independent. Second chances are not for everyone, to give or take.

I do believe second chances work sometimes, emphasis on SOMETIMES. However, if you're giving someone a second chance, you have to be EXACTLY what I stated above. You can't give someone a second chance if you're weak. If you're weak, you're more likely to be taken advantage of. More likely to be hurt in the long run or short run. It's all up to YOU if you want to give someone a second chance, but if you're not in the right mindset, don't do it. Don't give in. People CAN change. But you not only have to give that second chance, you have to dictate how you go about that second chance.

If you're giving an ex a second chance, NOT INCLUDING CHEATING BECAUSE I THOROUGHLY BELIEVE ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER, sorry had to get that out of the way. Let that person prove themselves to you, not just with words, but with actions. If they follow through with plans and stick to their word, you're making good progress. Keep your 'guard' up, but don't make it a damn 20 foot concrete wall covered in barbed wire and an electric fence. That shit is for the birds. It's one thing to be strong and slightly guarded and it's another to have a guard so high that you're only going to hurt yourself. Again, this all relates to the very first paragraph of the blog. You may still have feelings for this person, you may still love this person, but YOU have to be in control of yourself. Don't be an emotional mess while giving someone a second chance because that won't work. Don't chase this person around like a puppy, don't become clingy. Show your independence, show your strength. If this person REALLY wants you in their life still, they will show you, they will make it up to you, they will prove their feelings and loyalty.

If you're giving a friend a second chance, most of the 'rules' stated above apply. Kind of. Minus the romantic part haha. Be strong, be supportive, and most importantly, forgive. Don't hold grudges, they will only make you a miserable person. Nobody wants to be miserable, so don't let yourself be miserable. Let go of your baggage, you'll be happier and a better person because of it.