Jealousy

Jealousy is an ugly disease. Once you contract it, you start to become paranoid, whiny, needy, and try to pick apart every little thing about what you're jealous of, and then deny that you're even jealous.

Jealousy is not often admitted. Sure, people say "I'm so jealous!" when you say you got tickets to a big game or a new purse. In reality, it's nothing they're seriously jealous about. They'll get over your awesome seats to a playoff game or new LV. Anyways, the 'jealous' I'm speaking of is the silent but deadly kind. You're heartbroken over an ex and he gets a new girl...and she's pretty. Or your best friend just got in a relationship, and you never see her. Or an old friend has really been working on herself and she's lost 3 pant sizes and looks amazing. Even, your boyfriend is going out with friends and you're stuck wherever and he's not texting you back right away.

All these sorts of jealousy issues start with insecurity issues. My good friend Merriam-Webster define insecurity as: a : not highly stable or well-adjusted  b : deficient in assurance ; beset by fear and anxiety. This can apply to yourself, your friendships, your relationship, your every day life. If you are insecure in any of the previously stated, jealous will arise. Nobody WANTS to be jealous.

Signs of jealously:

1. Nonstop chatter about the subject (whether person or object)
2. Nonstop BASHING of the subject
3. Gossip
4. Evil stares
5. Putting one 'down'/No positive feedback

You know when you talk about how much you can't believe she's dating him and constantly try to bring the subject up? Take a step back and ask yourself: Am I jealous? BECAUSE IT SURE SEEMS LIKE IT! You're not fooling anyone, stop obsessing over something you may be unconsciously aware about and annoying your friends. Worry about yourself, not other people. There's no need to constantly rip on someone, or freak out on your boyfriend because he's out having a good time.

Honestly, no one likes when someone constantly bitches about a certain topic for days on end. It gets old quickly, and gossip? That's for the birds. Time to grow up, not try to find out every little flaw your ex's new girlfriend has. Don't bash your ex or your bf's/gf's ex. There's no reason for that. GET OVER IT. So when you find jealousy about to rear her ugly head and flash her teeth, step back and calm down. There's no need to take your insecurities out on something else. Instead, apply yourself, try to become more confident in yourself, your relationships, friendships, etc.

xoxo